We all sometimes present a slightly different version of ourselves. At interviews we try and accentuate our saleable features and shroud our less marketable talents and characteristics.

Online we can present ourselves in a number of different ways too. For instance my Boulevardier persona is a part of me but is exaggerated for entertainment purposes. Some might suggest that it’s not embellished at all.

When we act we take on different characters whether that be dramatically on a stage or just on a night out changing our name and circumstances when we talk to people we meet.

Does this ever become a problem? And how do people tip over the edge?

I have in the last couple of weeks been watching a TV show called Catfish. The Catfish of this show is a person who creates fake profiles on social media sites to market themselves as someone more attractive and appealing than their real selves.


The reason behind the term Catfish according to our all-knowing World Wide Web is

They used to tank cod from Alaska all the way to China. They’d keep them in vats in the ship. By the time the codfish reached China, the flesh was mush and tasteless. So this guy came up with the idea that if you put these cods in these big vats, put some catfish in with them and the catfish will keep the cod agile. And there are those people who are catfish in life. And they keep you on your toes. They keep you guessing, they keep you thinking, they keep you fresh. And I thank god for the catfish because we would be droll, boring and dull if we didn’t have someone nipping at our fin.’

The first episode dealt with a young girl whose father was shot dead. As a result she went off the rails, drank too much and slept around. Her life turned about when she met a perfect guy on the internet who befriended her on Facebook. He became her boyfriend and despite their never having met were planning to spend the rest of their lives together. Suspicion was aroused by his never being available to web chat or meet.

The hosts of the show then come in to look at the evidence and try and track down who is behind the would be scam or in other words the identity of the Catfish. In this first episode the girl’s best friend had created the fake profile to help her get over the death of her father and used her cousin to be the male voice on the end of the phone. She tried to justify her actions as not knowing what else to do in trying to get her best friend to stop ruining her life.

The second episode centred on an gay ex-soldier, medically retired after being injured in the Middle East. He met a guy online who became his boyfriend of several months. They had never met and the same scenario ensued. This resulted in the team uncovering a very unhappy young man pretending to be someone else to deal with self-esteem issues in his own life.

The third episode which was shown this week told a similar story but this time the victim had been sending money to his Catfish who was a significantly less physically attractive girl than her internet profile suggested.

The show is astounding and shocking, and while each individual story is different there are similar dark threads of deception, desperation, denial and decay. There can be no longevity to the webs the Catfish weave but they don’t seem to be able to detach themselves when the situation is spiralling out of control.

Interestingly most of the people in the programme were young and under 25, and many under 21. Does that mean that this problem is associated only with the young or that only the young are prepared to put it on camera?

No one seems to get a good outcome and everyone whether the Catfish or victim end up with a bitter taste in their mouths. The deceivers have openly said that they started off with deception but really fell for the deceived. I have not yet seen anyone forgive the Catfish to the point of continuing with the relationship.

Our modern multimedia lives create great opportunities and shrink the world divides but this would definitely be one of the cons.

This pretending to be who you are not lark or in this case Catfishing (if there is such a term) becomes a problem, in my mind, when it starts to impact on other people in a negative way.

Hopefully my Boulevardier does not impact on anyone in a negative way and is a fun accentuation of me! I think it’s great to have a doppelgänger. I hope you enjoy him too…

(I would wage that no one expected a blog from me about fishing!)



10 thoughts on “Catfish

  1. Like you said, I think most of us puff ourselves up in certain circumstances, especially when meeting new people. It’s kind of a social blind man’s buff.

    I do think the Boulevardier is safe because you overtly put that alter ego out there without any attempt to deceive. Though, I have to wonder if he is your ideal persona, not that there’s anything wrong with striving to be the personality you desire.

    Catfish, I think, get caught up in the moment, then can’t pull themselves out of it. Sort of that road to hell being paved with good intentions, unless their initial intent is to deceive.

    Whatever the reason, catfishing seems to overstep the boundaries of mischievousness.

    Don’t think I’d watch the show. Shows like that disturb me; one, because they ‘glamorize’ the act, and two, because it allows networks to make a profit from taking advantage of a sad situation when these people are at their most vulnerable.

  2. Nice piece Wayne and I bet that it is closer to most of us than we would like to admit to, and yes I was expecting a nice piece about sitting on the river bank on a sunny afternoon fishing for catfish bunt I wasn’t disappointed nice nod mate.

  3. I am familiar with the Catfish show, and have seen a few episodes where the catfish and the ‘victim’ were able to maintain a friendship.

    Around 2001 or 2002, I was in a “flirting back-and-forth” with a guy named Ryan. It was similar to a “catfish” situation, but the main difference was we did chat face-to-face via YIM. He lived in Florida, and there was a concert taking place there that I wanted to see, and he was willing to go as well, so I got a ticket to Florida, two for the show, and booked a hotel room. On the day the flight was taking off, I texted him, he did not reply, and never got back to me the whole 4 days I was in Florida. I do have other friends in that state, so I contacted them and we had a great time together.

    When I got back to NJ, he finally got back in touch with me, and gave me a lame excuse. Then they went into a tale of woe and tried to hit me up for money. My reply was all my free cash was spent for the plane ticket, hotel, and expenses for the trip to Florida, so I had nothing to give. (A lie, I had plenty of spare cash, but he wasn’t getting any of it) After that, all communication stopped. Shocker!

    I don’t see your posts here as a “misrepresentation” of yourself. Perhaps a touch embellished, but your posts here paint a picture of yourself that I realize I’ve seen before, when I’ve stayed with you, so I would say you are very honest.

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